Motherhood is such a special responsibility. To know that today, tomorrow, every day, I’m shaping a little human, raising them to be lovers of Jesus and givers of grace…Wow. Just wow.
I remember as a young mom bringing my newborn home from the hospital. I jumped at every noise, and smiled at every coo. And then….I blinked. For real, though! I blinked! And now that infant is almost 10. TEN!! How did this happen?!?!
I find myself thinking that high school is right around the corner. She’s five years from driving, and more than half-way to college. WHAT?!?!?! Why is life speeding by so fast?
When my brain jumps on this speed train of thoughts, I wonder if I’ve done enough, made enough memories, taught them enough to prepare them for the lessons they will inevitably learn in life. Friends stabbing backs, boyfriends breaking hearts, the dramas and insecurities that spring up in middle school. Are they going to be ready?
Do you sometimes find yourself feeling this way, too? Are you wishing for more time, all while knowing it’s limited?
Maybe your children are infants and you’re looking ahead at a long and happy childhood with them, free of regrets and what-ifs, full of possibilities and will-dos.
Maybe you feel like your chances are close to being over. Your kids are grown, they have flown from the nest already, and they are starting their lives without you.
Maybe, like me, you are right smack dab in the middle of those scenarios. My kids are beyond the baby stages, but we still have plenty of time before they leave our little nest.
I can look back at some of the poor choices I’ve made as a mom and let my mind and heart be filled with regret at some of the decisions I’ve made, some of the disappointments I’ve created.
I can look ahead at how quickly the end of their childhood is in sight and worry that I might not teach them everything they need to know before adulthood, that I’m wasting my time with them.
OR I can choose instead to only look at today! What am I doing TODAY that is helping to shape their minds, to mold their character, to build them up in their faith??
I can stop whatever I am doing the minute they run up to me to share their newest discoveries of creepy crawlies from the yard.
I can listen in earnest when they share their hearts about the latest and greatest playground drama of the week.
I can let the laundry folding wait while I spend an extra twenty minutes playing outside with them, catching butterflies and ladybugs.
I can choose to stop worrying about the “to-do’s” of motherhood. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, homework. Those aren’t what are most important! Those shouldn’t be my focus!
Instead, I will stop. I will look them in the eyes. I will listen with everything I have. I will hold their little hands. I will give them my full attention. I will put my phone away. Not in my purse or in my pocket, but away.
I will be fully there, in the moment, ready for any and all opportunities God gives us to teach them His ways. I will take full advantage of teachable moments and heartfelt conversations.
I will recognize that I CAN do something TODAY!! What I do today is an investment for tomorrow. I can’t change yesterday, but I can find the next best thing to do today.
When I listen to them without any distractions, they will know in the future that they can come to me with anything because they matter more than anything else to me. When I open up conversations about God and the Bible and things our family is going through, I am showing them they can trust me with their hearts and all of the things they are going through, too. When I give them my full attention, they know that they are my highest priority and I’m always there for them.
My prayer for you is that you, too, recognize the power of today. If your children are little, please learn this lesson early on!
If your children are grown, please don’t despair that it’s too late for you! Pick up the phone, send an encouraging text, share a verse that has been on your heart.
As mothers, our job is never done. But these days with our littles are running out. What can you do today that will make a difference tomorrow?